6 Ways to Handle Missing You’re Spouse

“It sucks that we miss people like that. You think you’ve accepted that someone is out of your life,
that you’ve grieved and it’s over, and then bam.
One little thing, and you feel like you’ve lost that person all over again.” 
― Rachel Hawkins, Demonglass

So, you’ve lost your spouse. The pain is unbearable. The kind of pain that just rips you apart. Your heart beats three times as fast, and it feels as if your heart is going to burst right out of your chest. You are missing that person so very much. Sadly, you’re not alone. I sure wish I could tell you it will go away. Problem is, it’s not going to go away. Sure, the pounding and the feeling that your heart will stop beating will probably go away, but, the love you had never will.

Missing someone isn’t easy. It’s actually very difficult. Mind you, missing your spouse is normal. It’s part of life.

I still miss my husband, Dale, and it’s been close to 14 years since he passed away. When I hear the song by George Strait, I Cross My Heart, there is always a tear rolling down my cheek.

A song, movie, tv show, a place, an odor, generally brings that grievous heartbreak to return. To make things worse, you never, ever know when it’s going to hit. At home, visiting a friend, in the store, in church, even when you’re in the gym.

Here are a few ways to handle missing someone:

1. Stop what you are doing, if, you can, and simply remember that person. Don’t push your feelings aside. Accept that he/she is gone – and without judgement.
2. Stop and move you mind to do something else. Pick up a book or magazine, do some gardening, work out, doing a hobby. If you don’t have a hobby – get one.
3. Look at photos that remind you of those happy moments. This might sound counter-intuitive, however, remembering the good times will help you settle your mind.
4. Reach out to a friend ore family member. It’s always a good idea to talk it out.
5. Self-care should be first on your list of things to do when you begin missing your spouse. Use your natural instinct’s. You’ll know what you need to do.
6. Lastly, practice gratitude and mindfulness. Pray, if you so desire, and be mindful of the world around you. Did you see that flower in the garden yesterday?

All in all, there are a number of ways to comfort yourself when you are missing your spouse. What do you do when the love of your life is no longer with you?

Hugs, Eydie